Question

I have been very depressed and sad for the last few years.. I am a divorced woman and I liked someone very much but parents disagree completely. I have been praying constantly and asking duas, but I am losing hope completely .. My heart is broken and I am unable to find hope in life. This is also the second time that my heart has been broken, why am I being punished so bad?.

Answer

This life is a one-time opportunity to achieve everlasting happiness in the life hereafter. Allah Almighty is showering countless blessings upon us every day. Every moment has a great potential to achieve high-ranks in
the court of our Creator. Every minute is like a gold coin. The heart and tongue are gifts from Allah to earn millions of rewards (Hasanaat) for the Akhirah.

Let's view and ponder over this chart of good deeds
http://www.islameasy.org/pdf/Convert_Time2Gold.pdf
Every particle of the universe will be left behind, but every deed of a human being will be lifted for the life hereafter! Strong faith and good deeds bring peace and comfort in this life, peace in the grave and gardens
of Paradise in the hereafter. When people forget the purpose of life, many of them terminate their lives without hope. When the human being realizes the purpose of life, an ordinary person can become a means of spreading
guidance to hundreds of thousands of people. There are diamonds, gold, silver and pearls to be discovered inside human heart.

Paradise is a reality ' with rivers of milk and honey, palaces of gold and silver, delicious food and fruits, beautiful spouse, always happy, always young, always healthy ' a great kingdom for ever and ever for an unending
enjoyment and bliss. Compete with each other to strengthen faith and excel in good deeds and hasten to seize every fleeting moment and turn into gold by a productive activity; sow seeds today to reap a rich harvest tomorrow
and rush at the available opportunity before it is lost for good.

Only Allah knows what is beneficial for us. He is All Wise, All Merciful. Allah loves us more than seventy mothers do. Difficulties and trials can become a means of raising our status and earn countless reward. Allah says in the Qur'an: (interpretation of the meaning):

'..Truly the steadfast will be paid their recompense without
limit'[Az-Zumar, 10].

Abu Saeed Al-Khudri and Abu Hurairah (RA) narrate that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: Whenever a Muslim faces fatigue, illness, worry, grief, hurt and sorrow, even gets pricked by a thorn, Allah in lieu of his sufferings removes his sins.' (Bukhari)

"Our anxieties, depression and worries are all created because we first make the decisions and then expect Allah Ta'ala to conform; whereas what we plan and decide is subject to Allah Ta'ala's confirmation." ['Cure for
depression' by Shaykh Yunus Patel]

Islam is a complete way of life and offers a real solution to every problem. Here are some steps one may take to cure depression and laziness, insha Allah.

Love of Allah:
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The human heart is the center of emotions and feelings. It dictates what it desires and works in collaboration with mind to act as a platform of good or evil. The human heart also has hidden treasures of matchless jewels. If found and applied, we can become beloved of Allah. Imagine a
believer (sister) who always remembers and seeks help from her Creator, praises Allah by her tongue, in her heart, expresses gratitude for His bounties, is patient in hardships. She supplicates in all earnestness and
always has good intentions.

Our real love should be for Allah. We love someone due to beauty and excellence, perfectness in knowledge and generosity, loving and caring treatment for us. If we look around and think about the blessings Almighty Allah is showering on us, we will love Him.

He is Allah, besides him there is no god, the All-Knower of the unseen and the seen. He is the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful. He is Allah, besides him there is no god, the King, the Holy, the One Free from all defects, the Giver of security, the Watcher over His creatures, the
All-Mighty, the Compeller, the Supreme. Glory be to Allah! (High is He) above all that they associate as partners with Him. He is Allah, the Creator, the Inventor of all things, the Bestower of forms. To Him belong the Best Names. All that is in the heavens and the earth glorify Him. And
He is the All-Mighty, the All-Wise.[Al-Qur'an, 59: 22-24]
Tau'bah (Repentance):

Depression is caused by displeasing Almighty Allah. When a person transgresses the Laws of Allah, he/she is inflicted with various types of harms such as depression. It is for this reason Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said Who ever makes Istighfaar in abundance, Allah will make a way out for him from every difficulty, free him from depression and anxiety and Allah will grant him sustenance from avenues he will not imagine.

'Why should Allah punish you if you have thanked (Him) and have believed in Him. And Allah is Ever All Appreciative (of good), All Knowing.'
[An-Nisa 147]

Here is an excellent article on "Tawba & Istaghfaar ' Repentance and seeking forgiveness"
http://www.islameasy.org/K202_Tawba.php

Therefore, the depressed person should repent for the past and turn his/her attention to Allah. Focus on pleasing Allah by fulfilling all His commands and He will grant you ease, peace and satisfaction of the heart, mind and soul. In the Zikr (obedience) of Allah is complete tranquility
and peace. Allah is the controller of all situations. If a person is in any difficulty, Allah is the only being that would assist him in coming out of that difficulty. Therefore, turn to Allah and He will take care of
all your problems and misfortunes.

Emaan and righteous

And Allah knows best.

Ask Alimah Team

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