Question

My Father has died in an Accident a day after Eid-ul-zuha.He was a very good human being, worked very hard for our upbringing, very Obedient to Allah, offers Namaaz on time... During his Life Time I use to take him granted for whatever he says, some times talking harshly on petty household issues, but he never take it seriously. it was ocassionally not very often & that too in a jolly mood we used to irritate our father. Now that after his death im repenting for hurting my father during his lifetime.we all told sorry to each other this ramazan for Hurting each of us including my Father in a way Knowingly or Unknowingly. He Never Complained that my Childrens are not good with me, was very happy with all of us. He has such a clean heart , he never takes our jokes seriously. We all are praying for his Esaale swaab Daily, Giving Charity.Pls Suggest me what is that I can personally do to seek forgiveness from my FAther and From ALLLAH.Do ALLAH Forgive my Sins, What all we have done was Intetionally & unintentionally.

Answer

May Allah have Mercy on your father, grant him forgiveness and Jannatul Firdous! May Allah bless your family with Sabre-Jameel, peace and happiness! May Allah bless you with piety (Taqwa) and purity, strong emaan, forgiveness of sins, have mercy on you, elevate your status, bless you with knowledge of Deen and generosity. Ameen!

You are an obedient daughter, a caring sister and a good Muslimah. Continue making Dua for your father daily (learn such good deeds which bring millions of rewards daily), give charity, pray for his forgiveness, take care of his debts (if any) and missing obligations in his life (missing Salah, any missing fasting, any missing Zakah/Hajj etc). The deceased's inheritance should be distributed (ask a Mufti on inheritance questions).

Committing sins may make you sorrowful, depressed and deeply disappointed with yourself. But if you return to Allah with a few tears and beseech Him for mercy, He will certainly forgive you. There is no other door to knock to solve our issues. None can forgive sins except Him. He calls us to the abode of peace (Paradise); He is the Almighty who hides our faults and He alone can replace our bad deeds with good deeds. The door of
repentance is always open.

Pray Salatul-Taubah and ask Allah to forgive you for any verbal abuse or hurting your father.

Every tear of a believer is precious in the court of Allah. Allah looks at the sincerity of our hearts and our actions. Only Allah can grant peace, love, contentment of heart, a blessed life in this world and in Jannah for true believers. Allah loves us more than seventy mothers do. Difficulties and trials can become a means of raising our status and earn countless reward. Even our blessed Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and his family and daughters went though hardships and trials.

Masha Allah an educated sister like yourself, in this age group, would seek more good deeds to get closer to Allah through Dua, Zikr, Quran, serving your community and other sisters. Explore the purpose of life - you may use articles and lectures on our site as a resource.

This incident is an eaxmple which shows how temporary this life is. The best thing we can do is to become pious friends of Allah. 'Religious' does not mean who prays and fast only - the definition is 'who abstains from all sins' -
this includes our daily life, food, earning and sepnding, dress, full hijab (niqab for woman), manners and purification of heart -

This life is all about controlling desires and protecting from the traps of Nafs (self) and Shaytaan. This is a temporary life where desires and feeling may not be fulfilled completely - the place for enjoyment and desires is Jannah. Paradise is a reality ' with rivers of milk and honey, palaces of gold and silver, delicious food and fruits, beautiful companions, always happy, always young, always healthy ' a great kingdom for ever and ever for an unending enjoyment and bliss.

The best thing for a believer is to make Taubah from all sins, big or small -- make a list of all mistakes in your past life, pray 2 rakat (Salah of Taubah) and ask Allah to fogive you. Then, try to make up for any missing Salah, any missing fasting, any missing Zakah/Hajj etc. Also, ask forgiveness from other people if any injustice or verbal abuse as made.

There are other obvious sins in our society - encourage everyone in our homes and community to make Taubah --- for example, not keeping a beard (for men), not observing proper Hijab (Niqab for women), eating doubtful things, watching movies/ pictures, music, mixing with non-Mahram, hanging pictures of living beings in home. These and many other activities are a waste of time/resources, makes a person unmindful of Akhirah (Hereafter) and lose the opportunity of earning millions of good deeds via Dawah, learning and teaching, Zikr, Tilawat of Quran, Durood, Isteghfar and Dua.

To keep good motivation, you may listen to some lecture and read articles on our site.

Purpose of Life (article)
http://www.islameasy.org/pdf/Purpose_of_Life_flyer.pdf

Purpose of Life (lecture)
http://islameasy.org/bayan/Taleem/PurposeOfLife.mp3

Cure for depression
http://islameasy.org/Cure_Depression.php

How should Every Muslim live through day and night?
http://www.islameasy.org/MuslimDailyLife.php

Prayer and Du'a - Strong connection with Allah
http://islameasy.org/index.php
 

And Allah knows best.

Ask Alimah Team

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