Marriage Proposal breaking

Question

I am getting married to a person who I wanted to get married to. My family was against the marriage, but they gave in for my happiness. The problem is now that things are all set and in the flow I am not happy with the idea anymore. He is a divorcee and a father of 2 girls who live with him along with his mother. The issue started coming in from his mother who does not like me coming to their house, the kids don't like me in the house, and he does not like me getting out of the house, he does not like me even talking about my family and my brother's children. The question that comes in my head right now is that in such a situation what does Islam have to say? How do I deal with the situation? I want to get out of this relation before its to late in the day! He even has major anger management issue! Gets really aggressive at times.

Answer

May Allah bless you with piety (Taqwa) and purity, strong Imaan, forgiveness of sins, have mercy on you, elevate your status, and bless you with knowledge of Deen and generosity. Ameen!

My dear sister, we advise you to hurry and pray two rakaat nafil Salaatul Hajaat, and ask Allah to help you in whatever is best for you. Afterwards, we highly recommend that you turn to your elders and explain the situation to them and ask them to stop any further arrangements and cancel the marriage before it really gets too late. You may have to hear some statements of "we told you this wasn't right for you etc". It's better to hear such from your parents than to live a miserable life.

For marriage, a religious person is better for both this life and hereafter. 'Religious' does not mean who prays, read Quran and fast only - the definition is 'who abstains from all sins' - this includes our daily life, food, finances, dress, full hijab, manners and purification of heart - read the article and Khutbahs on our site and listen to lectures - inshaAllah your knowledge will increase. Make your choice for Taqwa(piety) instead of just looking for the apparent beauty or worldly assets.

Pious Friendship and its effect on Character
http://islameasy.org/bayan/8_Pious_Friendship_I.MP3

Our recommendation to you is to read Salatul Istekhara when you are ready for the next proposal. May Allah grant you a spouse that grants you with love, respect, and happiness and both lead each other towards a life filled with Allah's obedience.

And Allah knows best.

Ask Alimah Team

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