I've never had a boyfriend and dont ever want one, but now I'm old enough to get married and really want to get married, I'm really religious and my parents, family cousins and family friends are not, so if my parents choose for me, he won't be religious. I really want to marry a pious and bearded guy. I've seen someone at my college and he's looks really religious, he never looks up if there are girls around and also has a beard, I've heard really good things about him too. The thing is, he doesn't know would it be wrong if I got his number from a friend who is in his classes and start texting him? Is it haram to text a guy? I only want us to know each other then we can get married.


May Allah bless you with piety (Taqwa) and purity, strong emaan, forgiveness of sins, have mercy on you, elevate your status, and bless you with knowledge of Deen and generosity'. Ameen! The Muslim Ummah regards you as an obedient daughter, a respected sister and a dignified woman in Islam!

Respected sister, put your hope, trust and faith in Allah Ta'ala. Instead of contacting this man, you should do salatul hajaat and make dua for yourself. It is an ibadah to seek help from Allah. We should not become
despondent if our Dua's have not been answered. It may be that Allah Ta'ala has bestowed on us another bounty (or even a better person), or granted us relief from a difficulty, or a reward is given to us in the Akhirah in place of it.

Alhamdulillah, Allah Ta'ala always grants us what is best for us and we should not be hasty or ungrateful.

May Allah Ta'ala grant you a spouse that will be the coolness of your eyes. Ameen!

[Editor's note]:
In Islam, a sister is regarded as a treasure, preserving her modesty and chastity. Allah likes those who can control their desires and do not go close to any sin.

Kindly read the Hijab book and share with your sisters.
This is the best way to protect the purity of sisters.

How observing Hijab brings piety and purity in society? How leaving Hijab leads to sins and shamelessness? A
must-read for every Muslim home. A definitive guide which present the Quranic verses and hadith on the subject,
along with the opinions of scholars who are closest to the path of righteousness, so that those seeking the life of piety may find guidance. This book is for Muslim sisters who ask:

"What is the proper and best way I can practice hijab, as it was practiced by the Prophet's community?"

Kindly review this article:
Status of Woman in Islam

And Allah knows best.

Ask Alimah Team

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