I got married few months back and I was very very happy with my husband. I had a relationship in the past before my marriage which my husband got to know about in a very wrong manner... I had a lot of friends including male friends in the past and my interactions with them also made things worse off. I have changed my ways and am still working on it but something keeps coming up where I was not up to mark, .. and now my husband said he thinks we are not right for each other. He says he cannot trust me anymore because I have kept so many things from him. He thinks I never loved him from the start and it was all a hoax on my part. He feels I have cheated him as well. I have done nothing of the sort but I have no way to convince him of this. .. I don't know what to do he said he thinks we should get separated but I can not imagine my life without him. Please tell me what to do.


Assalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuhu
Respected sister,

A. The first step is to take a lesson on Hijab, and the problems with pre-marriage relations:

Cure for Pre-Marriage Love Relationship

A Muslim woman is shy, has lots of Haya. Haya is the true jewel of every sister, and the fabric 

and foundation of an Islamic society. In Islam, a sister is regarded as a treasure, preserving her 

modesty and chastity. Every sister has a diamond which is her honor and dignity. May Allah 

protect them from fitnah and trials, Ameen!  

How observing Hijab brings piety and purity in society? How leaving Hijab leads to sins and shamelessness?  “What is the proper and best way I can practice hijab, as it was practiced by the Prophet’s (Sallallaho Alaihe Wasallam) community?"  

Kindly review the Hijab book 

[English]  For the daughters of the Ummah - protecting the honor and dignity of woman

[URDU] For Every Muslim Sister, Youth and Parents

B. Sincere Taubah, isteghfar, changing life patterns and Dua to clean the husband's heart and 

restore his trust in wife with love.

Search for professional marriage counseling services in your city.

Seek advice from your family elders to resolve urgent issues in marriage.

C. For happy marriage life, study articles and lectures in "Paradise at home" section:


And Allah knows best.

Ask Alimah Team

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